Father to Son Responsibility

We are Never Alone when We Walk Daily with the Master
We are Never Alone when We Walk Daily with the Master

Father to Son Responsibility

Listen, [my] sons, to a father’s discipline, and pay attention so that you may gain understanding, for I am giving you good instruction. Don’t abandon my teaching. When I was a son with my father, tender and precious to my mother, he taught me and said: Your heart must hold on to my words. Keep my commands and live. Get wisdom, get understanding; don’t forget or turn away from the words of my mouth. Don’t abandon wisdom, and she will watch over you; love her, and she will guard you. Wisdom is supreme—so get wisdom. And whatever else you get, get understanding. Cherish her, and she will exalt you; if you embrace her, she will honor you. She will place a garland of grace on your head; she will give you a crown of beauty.” Prov 4:1-9 (HCSB)

What our country needs today is more fathers involved and engaged in their families. Sons need strong role models to guide them as they grow and mature in the important stages of their life. However, sadly, many families today are forced to develop without a father active in the daily lives of the children. Mothers are left alone to raise the children and are overwhelmed and ill-equipped to provide the father’s role to their children. The results are children who grow up without the solid foundation of parental support that God intended from the beginning of time.

Isn’t it interesting that long before governments and nations were established, God ordained marriage and the raising of families as the foundation of society? Even the earliest nations were nothing more than extended families supporting one another for their common good and security. However, as government and religious institutions were established the pressure for power, prestige, and pleasure within these man-made institutions became far more important than maintaining God’s intended role of parents in the family setting. Society lost the connection of how a proper perspective on the power (influence and authority), prestige, and pleasure that the family relationship was intended to provide. Instead, men sacrificed their parental roles and responsibilities for the pursuit of the benefits of fleeting power, prestige, and pleasure that they believed come from climbing social and secular ladders. The applause of men became more important than the applause of their family members.

Additionally, in recent decades women have been included in the same pursuits as men and fallen prey to the social and secular pursuit of power, prestige, and pleasure that comes outside of the family. The definition of true success and the family has been further crippled as a result. The children have become the victims and paid the price, as mothers and fathers have shuffled their parental and familial responsibilities onto the shoulders of schools and churches and other social activities.


Speaking primarily to the fathers, you have a responsibility designed and established by God to be the role model for your sons (and daughters) to promote God’s will, ways, and wisdom found in His Word. Children desire and deserve the applause of their fathers. Your most important applause should come from the eager response of your children seeking our approval for what they do, say, and achieve.

America, what made us strong for many formidable decades was our agricultural family base, where multiple generations lived together on the farm supporting and encouraging each other. Everyone in the family shared in safeguarding the common good and security of the family members.

However, as America prospered and became more successful as an industrial society, families moved into the cities for the “so-called better life,” the traditional family structure suffered. Add the information age we currently are in, and now we find our children engaged in social networks looking for their acceptance and applause. Their role models are celebrities in sports, music, and movies, and not their fathers or mothers.

Why? The answer is simpler than we realize: Our children need approval and guidance and are seeking it from convenient and welcoming connections outside of their family, such as social media because their parental role models are too busy pursuing their own lives.

Let us be reminded what God wants us to remember: When I was a son with my father, tender and precious to my mother, he taught me and said: Your heart must hold on to my words. Keep my commands and live. Get wisdom, get understanding; don’t forget or turn away from the words of my mouth. Don’t abandon wisdom, and she will watch over you; love her, and she will guard you.


Children, obey your parents in the Lord because this is right. Honor your father and mother—which is the first commandment with a promise— that it may go well with you and that you may have a long life in the land. And fathers, don’t stir up anger in your children but bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. Eph 6:1-4 (HCSB)

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Words of Wisdom: Being Content within Your Circle of Friends & Family, Proverbs 27:7-11


Are You Content within Your Circle of Friends & Family, Proverbs 27:7-11

A person who is full tramples on a honeycomb, but to a hungry person, any bitter thing is sweet. A man wandering from his home is like a bird wandering from its nest. Oil and incense bring joy to the heart, and the sweetness of a friend is better than self-counsel. Don’t abandon your friend or your father’s friend, and don’t go to your brother’s house in your time of calamity; better a neighbor nearby than a brother far away. Be wise, my son, and bring my heart joy, so that I can answer anyone who taunts me. Prov 27:7-11 (HCSB)

What is the value of your Circle of Friends and Family Members?

There comes a time in one’s life when being content within your circle of friends and family members is not only proper but healthy! There comes a point when we need to reinforce and build upon the relationships we have in our life, rather than build upon the reach and number of relationships. There comes a point where the “law of diminishing returns” occurs in our affiliations. There may be a large universe of people that we get to make contact with and know, but they are but acquaintances by affiliations, but they are not friends or family that you know well enough to depend upon. Even Jesus had a lot of people He influenced and touched, but He also had his selected disciples, and even whittled them down to His “inner circle” of 12, with only three special disciples that He entrusted with the most intimate concerns of His ministry. Then He also had His family, and even while He was ministering, not all His brothers were real close. Eventually, James and Jude, two of His brothers would become special to Jesus and carry forward His mission of building the Church but evidently not until after Jesus was gone.

We too should be aware of the need to keep a close circle of friends and family members, and not try to be friends and confidants with too large a number of people. We should be friendly, but understand being friends is different. Build strong, healthy, reliable friendships beginning with our close family members, spouses, and special people we desire to truly call our friend.

How do you know who to invest your time and life with? Well, consider who you would trust in a time of real crisis. Who would cover your back, walk side-by-side with you, and look you eye-to-eye to encourage you when things get really tough? Who would share the risk with you in the midst of the storm? Those few are the ones you can call a friend, and are worthy of your most valuable time and effort. They are interested in you, and not about promoting their agendas and interests upon you.

Likewise, do you reciprocate the friendship commitment? Do you share that “phileo” (brotherly) love bond with your declared friends? Will you cross over from the safety of the shore to rescue your friend? Will you be willing to share the risk with your friend?

Warning: if you are always looking for contentment in your relationships, and you cannot find the kind of friend that you can be comfortable with as a close friend, maybe the discontent is not an outward problem, but an inward problem. Very likely, you cannot be content with others because you are unsettled within yourself. Remember the Lord declares that we must love others, as we love ourselves! Thus, we can never love others until we love ourselves as God accepts and loves us. So where would you begin? Begin getting comfortable seeking God’s will, God’s ways, and God’s wisdom according to God’s Word, and you will begin building a friendship with God, and He will reciprocate with you. That will help you learn how to love yourself and be able to a friend to others.

“What a friend we have in Jesus, He is the only friend we truly need!” Why? He teaches us how to be a friend so we can learn to recognize a true friend and build that “phileo” or brotherly (sisterly) love bond with a true friend.



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