Words of Wisdom: Slackers, Quarrelers, and Meddlers not Welcome! Proverbs 26:13-19

meddlingWords of Wisdom: Slackers, Quarrelers, and Meddlers not Welcome! Proverbs 26:13-19

The slacker says, “There’s a lion in the road – a lion in the public square!” A door turns on its hinge, and a slacker, on his bed. The slacker buries his hand in the bowl; he is too weary to bring it to his mouth. In his own eyes, a slacker is wiser than seven men who can answer sensibly. A passerby who meddles in a quarrel that’s not his is like one who grabs a dog by the ears. Like a madman who throws flaming darts and deadly arrows, so is the man who deceives his neighbor and says, “I was only joking!” Prov 26:13-19 (HCSB)

Even in the gated communities it is always interesting to discover the persistence that solicitors have as they make their way around the “No Solicitation” signs and sneak through the gate believing somehow the sign and gate do not apply to them personally. They believe that for some reason when they rap on your door you will be so amazed by their brazenness and you will fall victim to their sales pitch. Well, if that is not enough, what about the “slackers, quarrelers, and meddlers” we find in our community?

Slackers make an excuse for everything and do nothing. They will mooch gladly off of others but never participate when needed. Slackers in the neighborhood let their yards grow knee deep and then still somehow find there is no gas for their lawnmower or worry the clouds in the sky may rain, or if no clouds complain the sun is shining too brightly to mow their lawn. Slackers look at other yards in jealousy but their weeds are treated like exotic plants in their gardens. Slackers are always late to or somehow conveniently unavailable for meetings. Slackers bring praises only from other slackers. They feed off each other to justify their own behavior, but irritate everyone else – although the slacker rarely cares what others really think.

Quarrelers do not need any excuses to quarrel. They rise up and jump to the front of the crowd when controversy arises. They love to stir it up and bark the loudest, even before they really know all the facts. They just know a quarrel is in the wind and they cannot be left out. Quarrelers use their rude and sometimes crude approach to keep people at a distance because they have so much insecurity about themselves, so they make themselves unapproachable, especially when issues make them feel insecure. Others tend to be reluctant to invite quarrelers to social events because of their unpredictability when around others.

Meddlers look for an excuse to jump into matters that do not involve them because they have a need to be needed by someone so they create a need by sticking their two-cents into the conversation that was not directed to them. They offer advice that is not asked for and wiggle into the inner circle that they were not invited to join. They see the backs of people and never consider the possibility that what is being said is private. They always feel every door is open to them and they are the self-designated community adviser and counselor. However they never realize no one seeks them out or invites them to their homes to discuss matters that are unrelated to them. Yet they seem to have the knack of showing up anyway.

So in our community our new sign reads: No Solicitors, No Slackers, No Quarrelers, and No Meddlers Allowed! And when someone whines, complains, or intervenes or arrives unannounced and they say, “Who says so?” I say, God does! Go seek God’s will, God’s ways, and God’s wisdom according to God’s Word, and then we will invite you into our community.


Now we ask you, brothers, to give recognition to those who labor among you and lead you in the Lord and admonish you, and to esteem them very highly in love because of their work. Be at peace among yourselves. And we exhort you, brothers: warn those who are lazy, comfort the discouraged, help the weak, be patient with everyone. See to it that no one repays evil for evil to anyone, but always pursue what is good for one another and for all. 1 Thess 5:12-15 (HCSB)


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