Words of Wisdom: The Right Wife is a Gift from God! Proverbs 31:10-31
Who can find a capable wife? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will not lack anything good. She rewards him with good, not evil, all the days of her life. She selects wool and flax and works with willing hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from far away. She rises while it is still night and provides food for her household and portions for her servants. She evaluates a field and buys it; she plants a vineyard with her earnings. She draws on her strength and reveals that her arms are strong. She sees that her profits are good, and her lamp never goes out at night. She extends her hands to the spinning staff, and her hands hold the spindle. Her hands reach out to the poor, and she extends her hands to the needy. She is not afraid for her household when it snows, for all in her household are doubly clothed. She makes her own bed coverings; her clothing is fine linen and purple. Her husband is known at the city gates, where he sits among the elders of the land. She makes and sells linen garments; she delivers belts to the merchants. Strength and honor are her clothing, and she can laugh at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and loving instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the activities of her household and is never idle. Her sons rise up and call her blessed. Her husband also praises her: “Many women are capable, but you surpass them all!” Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord will be praised. Give her the reward of her labor, and let her works praise her at the city gates. Prov 31:10-31 (HCSB)
What is a capable wife? Does such an ideal wife even exist? I contend that the answer is yes! If in your search for the right spouse you stop looking through your eyes and your mind, and relied upon your heart and the guidance of the Lord’s Spirit within you to see what you should see in a woman, then the right wife will be revealed. Now, that does not mean you have chosen wrongly otherwise, but you certainly have run the greater risk by choosing your spouse through your own tunnel vision.
Is the woman you want to marry (or have married) the woman you will live with whether you are financially secure or in poverty? Can you trust her in all she does, and there will never be any second guessing in the relationship? Will she be industrious and dedicated to be not only your spouse but also a partner in meeting the needs of your family? Is she involved in the decisions about the household, and has a sharp mind to make the right decisions for both of your interests? Do her interests extend outside of the home into the community to make a difference for others as well? Will she be well prepared to provide for the family as the needs change? Is she gifted and diligent in choosing the best for the family and especially for you, so that the family will be well-cared for and their appearance will be a compliment to you?
Will your wife be humble enough to praise you first before others, even if she is very capable in her own right (because, a loving and faithful spouse reciprocates with praise)? Is the woman you plan to marry guided by the same values you are, and will seek after God’s will, God’s ways, and God’s wisdom according to God’s Word? And, will both of you agree that it is the Lord who leads the family and settles any differences between you?
Should you find such a woman, you will know because you will praise her throughout the years as the woman God gifted to you, and you value her beyond measure! Beauty fades and fortunes change, but when God has given you that special spouse, life together will be a beautiful experience and more valuable than the greatest riches you can receive.
Thank you Lord for blessing me these last 40 years! I look upon each day as we enter our remaining years as truly a blessing from God, that she truly is God’s wife for me…I am confident our children and their children acknowledge her for her unsurpassed love and care towards them as well.
Giving thanks always for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, submitting to one another in the fear of Christ; wives, be to your own husbands as to the Lord, for the husband is head of the wife as also Christ is head of the church. He is the Savior of the body. Now as the church submits to Christ, so wives should be to their husbands in everything. Husbands love your wives, just as also Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her, to make her holy, cleansing her in the washing of water by the word. He did this to present the church to Himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but holy and blameless. In the same way, husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hates his own flesh, but provides and cares for it, just as Christ does for the church, since we are members of His body. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. Eph 5:20-31 (HCSB)